Saturday, October 11, 2014

Sentence of the day

Trust takes years to build and seconds to destroy.


  1. Sadly, so true. And we can say that it may be rebuilt. But that takes decades. And we only live a few of those. To wait the rest of our lives trying to rebuild... On damaged foundation....or just let go and begin anew? Either course is uncertain.


    Im not going to try to rebuild with an abuser. They can show their "fresh new plumage" to someone else.

  2. Violet, I love you and I guess it's safe to say that you and I are learning the art of letting go.

    The first step is to learn to trust ourselves.

    A few months ago I told my therapist that I was scared to get into a new relationship because maybe, probably!, I would pick another abuser. His reply? He told me that sure it may happen but the difference is that I will now know to walk away early because I have learned so much and I value myself so much more. (You see what he did there, right? He reassured me I have the tools and the confidence now should I still be doubting myself.) He also told me that this is what "normal", healthy people do.

    I think in the end perhaps the only important person to trust is yourself. I know that lack of trust in myself has certainly been my problem in the past.


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