When doubt seeps in
I've been watching season 17 of Ultimate Fighter because basically it's nice to see very fit guys beat each other up.
I was no fan of Chael Sonnen, American mixed martial artist, in the beginning but then he sat down to have a talk with Uriah Hall who he's the trainer for in the series and who was struggling with his self-confidence, Uriah had asked Chael for advice. After his chat with Uriah Chael came out with this absolute gem:
"When doubt seeps in you got two roads - you can take either road. You can go to the left or you can go to the right and believe me, they'll tell you failure is not an option.
That is ridiculous!
Failure is always an option.
Failure is the most readily available option at all times, but it's a choice. You can choose to fail or you can choose to succeed. And, if we can plant seeds and let him know - "Move your feet! Keep your hands up! Stay off the bottom!" - that is the road to victory, or self-doubt and negative talk, and that is the road to failure.
But failure is always there, and it's okay to recognize that.
If I can leave you with anything today, in my long journey through this is:
One, it's okay.
Two, it's normal.
And as athletes and especially as men, as male athletes, we hate to admit weakness even to ourselves, and when you're dealing with something and you got some kind of a hiccup, yeah, first thing is acknowledge it."
It's frigging good advice.
(Maybe this is why I want to take up kickboxing which it is, apparently, OK to start doing even at my age. :P!